Night to his day

In "Night to His Day" by Judith Lorber, she makes a point I can personally relate to. I remember a specific time when I was about 5 years old, my dad took me to a barbor shop and got my hair cut short. A few days later, I went into the girls bathroom and was waiting for a stall when a woman said to me "the boys bathroom is across the hall....oh! you have earrings! you are a girl, i apologize!"
So, as I was reading "Night to His Day", I understood where the author was coming from. I think gender is definetly expressed by dress and naming. For example, pink almost always represents girl and blue almost always represents boy.
My opinion on gender is that males and females are still very much so seperated. In the workforce, males are sometimes seen as more dominant. I think females have fought long and hard to get where they are in the workforce and are more than capable of holding high positions that some only see men in.
I don't think that seperation like this should exist at all. Women have just as much capabilty as men do in every field.

My job.

I work in a resturant called Applebee's as a server. I won't begin to explain the stress I go through as a waitress, but I will write about a specific time from my last shift that got me angry with one of my fellow servers. I was persistently serving two tables, when a table that was not mine called me over and asked me to get their server because they needed their check. I told them, "Absolutely, your server will be right over." I told the server, and her response was "it's ok, their indian, they aren't going to tip anyway."

Immediately I defended my position explaining just because someone is a certain race does not mean you can judge them like that. I feel I get tips based on my service and I always do my job to my highest potential. I haven't gotten bad tips from all different races, and good tips from different races. The amount of racism that goes on at a restaurant is unbelievable. I will be posting many more incidences in this blog.

First entry :)

I will start off my blog by giving my stance as to where I stand with racism and sexism issues, and relate it to dominant/target groups. I am a white girl with blonde hair and blue eyes. I have not experienced much racism in my life and maybe that's why I don't pay much attention to it. I have friends of all different races and many times people have referred to me as "colorblind", because to me it doesn't matter what race or sex you are. I believe everyone should be treated equally and not be judged by anything but who they are inside.
In my eyes, racism is just as ridiculous as when people look at me and perceive me as a "dumb blonde" and think that just because I have blonde hair, I may not be as smart as a brunette.
Unfortunately, not everyone feels the way I do. Some people believe that outside appearances are more important than what a person can offer on the inside. I realize that we don't live in a perfect world, and no matter what there will always be people who judge other people by what they see on the outside. However, I think it's admirable that we have people in this world who spend their life trying to fight for other's rights, and their own.